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Not all cats are so forthcoming with their affection, so how can you tell if they love you? Since my childhood I have has some breeds which wore their heart on their sleeve and it was easily apparent that they enjoyed spending time with me. However, I have also had breeds which treated me with a mild indifference, barely registering my movements unless I was placing their food bowl down. If your cat isn’t very affectionate and are looking for some reassurances, here are some tell-tale signs that your cat loves you.


If your cat likes to come over to you and butt heads, it is showing affection. They are rubbing their pheromones on you to show any other cats that you belong to them. A head butt may not be the most traditional way to show affection, but from my cat, I will take it.


Unlike mine, if your cat can be bothered to get up off the sofa and greet you at the door then it is obviously pleased to see you. I have seen a friend’s cat successfully identify the sound of her keys in the hallway, despite living in a shared apartment and on a busy corridor, she always notices the specific sound of her owners keys and makes a beeline for the door. Now that is love.


Another weird trait that indicates love and affection, bringing you dead animals as presents. In the wild, they would only share food with their young and it definitely shows they appreciate you. It may not as good as a new necklace, but I guess it’s the thought that counts.


Loud purring is a sign that your cat is relaxed and content. When I rub my cat’s chin, she emits this deep, rumbling purr that makes her sound like she is about to take off and fly around the room. The deeper and louder the purr the happier they are in your company.


I often catch my cat staring at me from across the room when I’m not looking. I used to think it was plotting against me, but scientists actually believe that cats only make direct eye contact with people they trust. It may not mean they love you, but if you catch them staring, at least they trust you.


If their licking sometimes becomes a little too enthusiastic and they start to show some teeth, as long as it isn’t drawing blood or anything, it is probably just a playful, affectionate nibble. They don’t hurt at all, just tickle a little.


A lot of cats like to lick your hands or maybe even your face, but it is rare that a cat will love you enough to lick your hair. Cats lick each other to groom each other and if they extend this invitation to you too, it means you have reached the inner sanctity of your cat’s trust. Yes, it may be a little gross, and you might want to go and wash your hair afterwards, but it is certainly a sign of love and affection.


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Oli Ward

Oli has camped and hiked his way around Australia and most of Europe. He also loves writing about his experiences and sharing his knowledge.